And just before the day is out, some valentine's links

I’ve always hated the day myself but at last have some equanimity on the subject. So here, in order of reading:

– Vaughan at Mind Hacks goes to town with a puntastic post on romance in the labs:

Psychiatrist Donatella Marazziti and her colleagues measured levels of a protein that transports the neurotransmitter serotonin in the blood of 20 people who had recently fallen madly in love, 20 people with obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) and 20 healthy comparison participants…

She found that the group of patients with OCD and the recently love-struck were no different in terms of the serotonin transporter protein, suggesting the brain began to function markedly differently as love blossomed.

So love is an obsession, a compulsion. (And is it only me who thought that the previous post, “Faking a labour of love”, was about something other than the subject written about?)

Moving swiftly on, how about love as slavery… K at Flickering Lamp has an excerpt on The Way to Love:

People have become so much a part of your being that you cannot even imagine living a life that is unaffected or uncontrolled by them. As a matter of fact, they have convinced you that if you ever broke free of them, you would become an island–solitary, bleak, unloving. But the exact opposite is true. How can you love someone whom you are a slave to? How can you love someone whom you cannot live without? You can only desire, need, depend and fear and be controlled. Love is to be found only in fearlessness and freedom.

Want to buy roses as a statement of fearless and free something-or-other? Well either you should or you shouldn’t ensure they’re from Kenya.

The UK government says buying flowers from developing countries creates jobs and reduces poverty.

A recent study indicated roses flown to the UK from Kenya produced fewer emissions than roses grown in Holland in heated greenhouses.

But campaigners say some workers suffer long hours in poor conditions.

What’s an ethical consumer to do? Don’t ask me, I don’t even like cut roses.

However what I do like is dispensing with valentine and adopting friendship – as well as doing it yourself. Marja-Leena does both:

Hauskaa Ystävänpäivää!

This morning, on the way to school, there was a young man at the crossing wearing a black sweatshirt emblazoned with large white letters:

LOVE IS FOR SUCKERS

and, front and back, a bright red perforated and bleeding heart. I pointed him out to the boys with some amusement and, perhaps, approval. Unfortunately this was too much for the young man in question who then stood stooped and sideways on to us exuding embarrassment and pink cheeks.

Fearlessness. That’s the key. Or one of them. Possibly.

And just before the day is out, some valentine’s links

I’ve always hated the day myself but at last have some equanimity on the subject. So here, in order of reading:

– Vaughan at Mind Hacks goes to town with a puntastic post on romance in the labs:

Psychiatrist Donatella Marazziti and her colleagues measured levels of a protein that transports the neurotransmitter serotonin in the blood of 20 people who had recently fallen madly in love, 20 people with obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) and 20 healthy comparison participants…

She found that the group of patients with OCD and the recently love-struck were no different in terms of the serotonin transporter protein, suggesting the brain began to function markedly differently as love blossomed.

So love is an obsession, a compulsion. (And is it only me who thought that the previous post, “Faking a labour of love”, was about something other than the subject written about?)

Moving swiftly on, how about love as slavery… K at Flickering Lamp has an excerpt on The Way to Love:

People have become so much a part of your being that you cannot even imagine living a life that is unaffected or uncontrolled by them. As a matter of fact, they have convinced you that if you ever broke free of them, you would become an island–solitary, bleak, unloving. But the exact opposite is true. How can you love someone whom you are a slave to? How can you love someone whom you cannot live without? You can only desire, need, depend and fear and be controlled. Love is to be found only in fearlessness and freedom.

Want to buy roses as a statement of fearless and free something-or-other? Well either you should or you shouldn’t ensure they’re from Kenya.

The UK government says buying flowers from developing countries creates jobs and reduces poverty.

A recent study indicated roses flown to the UK from Kenya produced fewer emissions than roses grown in Holland in heated greenhouses.

But campaigners say some workers suffer long hours in poor conditions.

What’s an ethical consumer to do? Don’t ask me, I don’t even like cut roses.

However what I do like is dispensing with valentine and adopting friendship – as well as doing it yourself. Marja-Leena does both:

Hauskaa Ystävänpäivää!

This morning, on the way to school, there was a young man at the crossing wearing a black sweatshirt emblazoned with large white letters:

LOVE IS FOR SUCKERS

and, front and back, a bright red perforated and bleeding heart. I pointed him out to the boys with some amusement and, perhaps, approval. Unfortunately this was too much for the young man in question who then stood stooped and sideways on to us exuding embarrassment and pink cheeks.

Fearlessness. That’s the key. Or one of them. Possibly.

Dinner conversation

Secondspawn: Mummy, what’s your favourite word?

Me: Hmmm. Interesting question. I shall have to think about it. And of course my favourite word probably changes all the time

pause

Me: I think it’s “incommensurability” at the moment.

Ss: I know what that means.

Me: You do? what does it mean?

Ss: It means that you can’t hold something in a certain way.

Me: I think you may be right.

Whirlwind weekend

After Saturday morning’s cat-knitting emergency and some swift multi-tasking (emptying the washing machine and cat litter whilst colouring my hair for example) in the afternoon I went to the cinema with H to see No Country for Old Men, the latest film by the Coen brothers. Don’t read anything about it if you want to see it. It’s almost undoubtedly better approached without prior knowledge. It’s a wonderful film, Fargo-esque but bleaker. The cinematography is absolutely stunning, the ending (controversial I understand) puzzling but ultimately satisfying, the acting (particularly Javier Bardem and Tommy Lee Jones) excellent. It takes a bit of digesting though. Definitely not a quick-fix no-brainer film.

Afterwards a beer in a pub with a large number of mice scampering around the floor, then off to Sainsburys for the evening’s essentials – champagne and cat litter. The former for a birthday party, the latter for, I’m sure you’ll be astonished to hear, the cat. Who still lives, not yet stabbed through the heart with a knitting needle, but has a smaller stash of remaining lives.

There is such joy in making things for people. I’m sure I’ve drivelled on about this before but that doesn’t make it less true. Here are A’s birthday arm-warmers and J’s thank-you socks, both now despatched to their recipients.

dashing with socks

A’s party was wonderful. Fireworks banged and sparkled, champagne popped and fizzed, conversation scintillated, seeds were planted, party poppers, er, snapped and showered golden hearts. On top of the earlier beer went ginger champagne cocktails, straight champagne and caipirinhas made with an unusual additional ingredient – champagne. Even the cake was in the shape of a champagne bottle.

I walked home in the crisp darkness under the twinkling stars considerably more steadily than you might imagine. Progress was marked by the metronomic ringing of the metal tip of my kitten-heeled boots on the pavement which echoed off the pavements and walls of the dark and silent streets. About a third of the way along my own street I heard footsteps behind me. Quiet, furtive footsteps. I stuck to my unhurried rhythm and didn’t look round. The furtive footsteps got closer, faster. The unknown person was now running. I had no bag, no valuables, nothing but my front door keys and phone.

Clang, clang, clang went the unperturbed rhythm of steel on pavement. Then a man appeared, attached to the running feet, who whirled around in front of me and said “lovely weather isn’t it”. Clang, clang, clang went the unchanged beat. I glanced at the sky. “There are no clouds” I replied. Clang, clang, clang. “So, how are you?” he asked. “I’m absolutely fine thank you very much” I said. At that he turned and loped away, back in the direction from which he had come. Clang, clang, clang said the unhurried heels to the pavement.

Sunday morning was bright, beautiful and entirely without hangover. I met Jean

pagoda3 - co-snapper

and we went on a lovely walk, with cameras, to Battersea Park

bauble not baobab

and the Peace Pagoda

pagoda1

neither of which I had visited before. The light was absolutely fantastic.

Then we had an exquisite lunch in beautiful, tranquil surroundings and for dessert visited the haberdashery department where Jean was good and I was not.

Well what’s a girl to do? the stockings are rough-going and I need something to ring the changes now that all my other projects have been finished. And besides, the yarn is fair trade and I shall be contributing to the health and well-being of Peruvian children. It would be churlish not to. Thus it is that I shall shortly be casting on the lazaro sleeveless top using hacho yarn shade 303 (coral reef). I managed not quite to hear Jean’s muttering about my cupboard full of wool at home.

Photographs of the day are here.

Pro(re)creation

“So, will you have more?” she asked, lying back on the sofa and watching me playing peek-a-boo with her baby.

“God no” I said.

“Why not?”

“Well, first of all there’s the medication. Wouldn’t be a good idea. And I’m old. And even if I did ever meet someone, would anyone be good enough to be a father to the boys? Because that’s what it would mean, and I just can’t imagine it happening.”

“Did you want to have more, would you have, if things had been different?”

“Oh yes, I wanted a football team. I loved being pregnant, love babies and being a mother. It makes life so interesting and exciting, looking through the eyes of a child. Bloody hard work, though.”

She nodded. She too is a single parent.

“What about you?”

“I’d love to have more. If things had been different. But I don’t think I’ll have any. I know I couldn’t do it again on my own. I think this is it.”

I looked at her, beautiful, clever, funny, at least ten years younger than I am, sitting round-eyed and serious and looking slightly sad. The baby laughed, I merely smiled and said nothing. Baby and I returned to our game which now involved trying to lick each other’s noses.

“There are websites, though” she said, brightening.

“What sort of websites?”

“Where single mothers arrange to meet people for sex. One on a Friday and another on a Saturday, say. So they cram it all in on the weekends when they don’t have the children around.”

“Ah! well, casual sex, that’s entirely different. What a brilliant idea.”

We both smiled.

Infinite incommensurability

Word pouches clutched the heart of earth as the lead-lark plummeted. Schrödinger’s quantum addressivity exploded in its firework multiplicity. Ambiguously undulating pigeons frighted chaos and old night.

There was also liquid quintessence of christmas pudding with emperor’s ice cream.

sherry with a spot of ice cream

And mushrooms.

mushrooms

But not necessarily in that order.

travis

A damn fine, unboxed, cat.

cannibal jaywalker

And I knat.

UPDATE: And if you want some depth and sense and beauty on the matter, go here.

Highly suggestible with great frontal lobes

That is going to be my strap-line should I ever decide to advertise for Mr Darcy. Not only is it pithy it also has the benefit of being a conclusion arrived at by rigourous (I presume) scientific testing.

Yes, I went over to the Maudsley again today for more guinea-piggery for Dr Bell and his hypnotism research. Today was great fun, a bit like an extended puzzle page from the paper. I have no idea what it’s got to do with hypnotism but apparently it was to test frontal lobe function. And I’ve got a pretty whizzy pair, it would seem.

I like this research business. Not only is it entertaining and gets me out of the house, it also tells me I’m very. Very suggestible. Very frontal lobal. But the pleasure from veryness is bizarre. I don’t want to be very. I want to be normal, average, in the middle, cozy, surrounded. I used to aspire to very as a solace, a justification. Further work required.

This morning the misty light was not sufficiently bright to be pearlescent. It was more moonstoneish. “Look up!” said Secondspawn on the way to school, pointing to the black silhouette of jagged branches against a grey sky. “It looks like we’re in a black and white film”. Colour was, indeed, mostly absent. But there was enough of it about for these pictures to work better without the colour entirely drained from them, I think.

tree drip

Is it not amazing, the physical property of water when a liquid?

bud drips

On large things the drips are large. On small they are small.

stem drips

The mist was directional – the hairs on that stem were moist to the south, dry to the north.

hip drips

I loved the way this web was slung around that hip. And I’ve always longed to take a decent picture of the moss that grows out of wall-mortar. This tiny clump was particularly bejewelled.

moss drips

And finally, as they say on the news, what the hell is this? The outline of a glove, certainly, but how did it get on the top of a bus shelter in such a way? The last signs of a disintegrated fabric having rotted away over a period of years? Or some prank, perhaps, by a student at the art college outside which it is situated. Puzzling and rather lovely.

glove? top of a bus shelter

Very little knitting done though.

Words fail me

I take a short break from the housework to report the following.

Earlier, in another part of the woods.

Firstspawn: “I can’t hoover my room because it won’t suck up the bits.”
Harassed mother (distractedly): “Maybe it’s full. Have you tried emptying it?”
Fs: “Yes, but it still doesn’t suck properly.”
Hm (concentrating mostly on cooking / cleaning / knitting / washing / helping with homework / blogging / feeding creatures) casts half an eye over hoover, sees it is indeed empty: “But does it still turn on? make a noise?”
Fs: “Oh yes. It makes a noise.”
Hm: “What do you mean, it won’t suck up the bits?”
Fs: “Well all those staples that got spread across the floor. It won’t get them off the carpet.”
Hm: “Ok, I’ll look at it later.”
Fs: “So can I play my wii / DS / go on the computer now?”
Hm (sighing): “I suppose so.”

It is now later. The children are away for the weekend.

I have examined the hoover. The problem was not hard to discern. Lodged at the end of the hose was a sock. An entire black school sock. I removed it and reassembled the machine.

It still didn’t suck. Disassembled it again. And there was another one. An entire navy blue and red striped sock.

So. Rather than expend the energy on actually bending down and picking them up this slack-jawed knuckle-grazing lazy drooling lump had actually hoovered up his socks. Sucked them up. Into the machine. Hoovered up his socks.

*thump* *thump* *thump*

(Sound of head making contact with wall. Repeatedly.)

Conclusive evidence

conclusive evidence

…that one skein is not enough.

A kitchen balance is useful in so many ways. On this occasion it is showing me that the first of the pair has already used more than half the available yarn, as I had feared might be the case. On other occasions it demonstrates things like Little  Blue Teddy being heavier than Baby Bear despite the latter having larger dimensions.

Oh bother.

I have a choice. Unravel the item and make a pair shorter than instructed so one skein will be sufficient or get another skein and have 3/4 of it left over.

Common sense and fiscal prudence dictate the former. Love of yarn and an excuse to go back to the shop tug in the other direction.

A small day of huge delight

On the way home white paper birds flutter in the breeze near the Interplanetary Society. I turn and snap them quickly with my phone.

paper birds

On the train a discarded newspaper tells me a paper plane is to be launched from space.

This morning I popped in to F’s for a quick cup of coffee after dropping Secondspawn at school. Didn’t leave til three. Oh the delicious companionable delight of a kitchen table, gourmet food rustled out of the air, T joining the coven, the dogs trying to out-fart each other beneath our feet. The talk, the laughter. The knitting. Oh yes. The knitting.

Home to deposit the out-farted dog and then down to my first ever I Knit London weekly knitting club. A panicked mail to knittingdiva Pixeldiva expressing social inadequacy and fear of strangers had elicited sympathy and a companion experienced at these events.

Oh joy. Oh happiness. The tiny shop has hanks of multicoloured yarn hanging from rails on the ceiling so full is it of juicy multi-coloured fibre joy. The smell is a faint, subtle but unmistakable perfume. Of wool. And dye. And spun delight. The shop concentrates on hand-dyed yarns from small British producers as well as some of the standard brands. Everything is edible.

First I have to undertake my urgent and important mission – buy sock needles for F. Then the far more difficult task of not buying vast quantities of yarn. I succeed, mostly. I get (as I had planned and allowed myself to) a hank of the most divine alpaca/wool mix aran in a colour called “twilight” for a planned present for a friend and the needles to go with it. But then weakness crept in and so did a completely unnecessary skein of sock yarn. Hardly any time remained, after the transports of delight, for actual knitting before I had to rush to transport of a more prosaic variety in order to get back home before the children returned from their father’s. Which I very nearly succeeded in doing.

On the way back I gazed at the unbelievable colours, stroked the incredible texture and marvelled at the priceless pleasure something as simple as three friends and two skeins of wool can provide.

So. To sum up. Today I went round to a friend’s house and met another at a wool shop. Then I went home.